When was the last time you did something alone? Went to a movie alone? Ate lunch alone? Ventured out alone?
After being in a long term relationship and trying to recount all the times I’ve done all of the above in the company of other people, I realized I barely spent time alone. Growing up, I felt reliant on those around me. As if I needed them in order for me to do what I please, like go to the mall, run errands or even go to the gym. During college I felt weird walking alone from class to class and didn’t like being alone in the library. It must be me getting older, but I do feel more comfortable being alone. I feel more liberated when I can say I did something by myself for myself. And I feel like I learn a lot about myself when I am alone.
It seems uncomfortable, and yeah I may look like a loser to most people, but dang – it’s that feeling of freedom to do what I want when I want that feels amazing to me! Ellen Burstyn couldn’t have said it better. I feel more in tune with myself and of myself when I spend time alone, finding peace and inspiration. As much as I love people’s company, there are just some times when it feels suffocating trying to balance work, a social life and family duties. When I want to be alone, you can catch me at a local Starbucks sipping on a coffee and blogging or even out and about in San Diego enjoying the scenery.
In the society we live in today, always on our phones or on social media, we are always connected. Chosen solitude seems to have a stigma. People think it’s difficult being alone that even parting from their phone is like a bad omen. It’s like being seen alone is a shot to their self-esteem, but au contraire – It’s quite the opposite. To be alone is to channel your identity and well-being. I think being able to do things alone reflects just how confident you are in yourself. I think we should all give it a try once in awhile, whether it is disconnecting or actually doing an activity on our own. Being alone doesn’t mean you’re a loner. It’s taking time for yourself to focus on yourself.
I’m no expert on being alone, but practicing the art of disconnecting and being on my own has taught me a few things like…
- Focusing on myself and what I am truly passionate about
- Feeling peaceful and relaxed
- Getting in tune with Mother Nature
- Tapping into my creativity
- Feeling an increased sense of freedom
- How to be more appreciative of the little things in life
- Channeling my consciousness and well-being
- Reflecting on the positive energy and good
It’s Monday – Getting back on that work or school grind and taking care of daily duties is stressful. Don’t forget to take some time to be alone and free yourself from distractions. Treat yourself out to a nice lunch or take yourself out to watch a movie you’ve been wanting to see. As uncomfortable as it sounds, it’ll be worth it.